If you’re in a place of letting go or even thinking about taking that next big, hard step, congrats! I know letting go can be tough, but remember: There’s something awesome waiting for you on the other side: HOPE.
I can tell you from personal experience that feeling hopeful after living in a space of hopelessness for too long—is almost as good as having a pizza with no caloric after-effects. (Call me if you know where I can get one of those, by the way.) It’s a time of looking forward and envisioning what comes next. To do that effectively, you need to add structure to possibility and re-up on your goal setting. While there’s no one-size- fits-all approach, the following three steps should jog your thinking. Grab a glass of whatevs, a bag of gummy worms, and dig in… with a smile. This is the fun part!
#1: Get Into It
The last thing you want to do is goal set after you’ve just had a big meal (ugh, no). Instead, put on your favorite meditation CD, get out your favorite journal and pen, roll out the yoga mat, crank up iTunes, crack open the magazines and glue sticks, and prepare to vision board. Whatever it takes for you to get in the zone, where there are no barriers and everything is possible. The goal is to get yourself in the mood to think big, and paint the picture of the next stage of your life. Pie-in- the-sky time!
#2: Get to Know Yourself Again
Only one way to do it – by literally interviewing yourself. Be your own Anderson Cooper or [insert favorite journalist]. Ask and answer the following questions:
- Who are you if you’re not in relationship?
- What’s important to you?
- What are your deal makers – the things that inspire you to be your happiest self?
- What are your deal breakers – the things you simply cannot live without?
- Location, location, location. Are you staying put or are you going on an adventure?
- Fill in the blank: “The very thought of [insert activity] makes me want to sing on a mountain like Julie Andrews in the Sound of Music!”
- If the voices in your head came from a Tony Robbins or Brene Brown—instead of your mother or ex-husband—what would they say and would you listen?
- What’s holding you back and how can you get past it? (Hint: Open fist, let stuff drop out…)
- If money were no object and failure wasn’t possible, what would you do next? Today? In a year? In three?
#3: Analyze the Answers
Hopefully, this exercise has helped you uncover a whole bunch of badass stuff about yourself. Look for recurring themes, pick one or three, and let go for it. You’ve heard that slow and steady wins the race? Always wondered about that, BUT you can do it at whatever pace feels best for YOU.