Let Go For It®: Letting Go of Being Cool

When it comes to letting go, the big and obvious things count — like letting go for love or for health or for work or money. But the little things matter as well, like where you are on the scale of coolness. This becomes especially prickly as you age. And I’m sad to report that, while I used to pride myself on being a cool “older” person, I fear I’m starting to lose it. I’m getting warm. The evidence speaks for itself: I still buy platform shoes. I’m still on AOL. I miss shoulder pads (some days, it’s bad). I’m trying desperately to bring back the Farrah Fawcett-inspired feathered hairstyle. And, even though I’m an award-winning Communications Consultant and TEDx speaker with almost 30 years in the industry, I’m utterly confused by Twitter.

There, I said it. (Let go of shame.)

But nowhere have I proven to be un-cooler than in this hard fact: I have no idea who Dua Lipa or Brett Eldridge are. This morning, I got an email from iTunes, promoting some new releases for a discounted price. Always up for a good bargain, I clicked on it. What I found was shocking: I had no idea who ANY of the bands were on the list. Not a lick.

It was a sobering moment, that required some Stuart Smalley affirmations in the mirror:

I mean, I have always tried my best to be up on the latest in music. To know at least 75 percent of the bands playing at the Grammys. But, if banditos came to my house tonight, put a steel folding pocket knife to my head and demanded I hum a few bars from this year’s nominees, I might shout out “Neil Young!” (At least, to my credit, I wouldn’t say Tom Jones… although I do like him…) To which I’d be a goner faster than you can say, “I’d like to thank the Academy…”

I’m officially old, muttering phrases like, “They just don’t write music like this anymore …” or “Who wants to listen to The Carpenters… anybody?”  or “Is Dionne Warwick still a psychic…?” It feels like some sick twisted rites of passage, to not know the latest music trending on iTunes–although I am grateful for knowing precisely what iTunes is! (You can’t see me, but I’m patting myself on the shoulder pad…)

How will I let go?

There’s only one way.

Pound cake.

Well, maybe a few others: Most notably, acceptance of where I am in life. The fact that not everybody gets to be blessed with growing older and turning 54. And that, in the scheme of what’s important in life, being cool is both subjective and overrated. (My dogs think I’m cool, by the way.) Besides, what does cool mean anyway?

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Jill Sherer Murray is an award-winning writer and speaker who studies creativity, relationships and self-growth. She is also the founder of Let Go For It®, a lifestyle brand dedicated to helping individuals let go for a better life. Jill’s TEDx talk as well as her advice column, Big Wild Love: Let Go For It® were created in service to her loyal and growing fan base, who seek support in the act and the art of letting go for the love they desire and deserve. Follow Jill @letgoforit on TwitterFacebookInstagram and LinkedIn.

2 replies
  1. Shannon
    Shannon says:

    Yes! Jill, I feel the same. I’m exhausted with trying to be cool…it’s too much work. And to prove it, this New Years Eve I’ll be in my flannel pajamas by 9:00pm, probably eating pork lo mein, binge watching The Crown on Netflix (again!). And you know what…I’m fine with that. 🙂


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