5 Strategies for maintaining big wild love

I recently had the opportunity to share my story and the guiding light that is Big Wild Love in an article for Authority Magazine. We had a great conversation about my personal story that sparked the BWL revolution, self-love as it relates to appearance, why it’s so important to do that inner work and fall in love with ourselves, and more! Click the button below to read the full article, and check out the highlight below for my top 5 strategies for maintaining Big Wild Love.

1 - Transcendental Meditation

 I practice Transcendental Meditation because its benefits are incredibly well-researched. And I really enjoy it. It frees my mind, gives me clarity, helps me to feel positive in the face of negativity, and reminds me to always love myself first and most… if and when I lose my way. Because we all do. It takes work to not only develop self-love, but to keep it burning brightly. Because so often, we’re working to rewire beliefs we’ve had for a very long time — so it takes vigilance.

I can always tell, when I begin to feel on-edge or I start to go into the void of negative thinking, that I need to get back to my practice in a deeper way — especially if I’ve missed a day or two. While I’m meditating, I’m reminded that I’m good, life is good, and I’ve got this.

2 - Listen to your body

Our bodies are always trying to tell us when something is off and listening is an act of Big Wild Love. If I can’t sleep, if I’m feeling especially anxious, or achy for no reason, I’ll ask myself what I need to feel better. When you love yourself, you know your wellbeing takes precedence.

3 - Always be aware of your beliefs

I remain vigilant in terms of managing my beliefs because old wounds and limiting beliefs are always calling us home, especially when life changes, or we change, or we’re living in uncertainly, and we crave safety. We reach for those old ways of being and thinking because they’re familiar. But we must resist.

For example, when I learned that all my in-person book tour events were canceled due to COVID, I immediately reached for the limiting belief that I’m a victim. Here I am excited to launch a book, and I can’t even. That nothing good ever happens to me, like it does to other people. It was a belief and talk track I used to tell myself when I was stuck in love. And it loves to resurface whenever I feel deeply disappointed. I give it air for a day — because we have to acknowledge our feelings in order to deal with and then dismiss them — and then I swat it away. I also remember: It’s okay. I’ll have a virtual book tour and, sure, it won’t be the same. But it will be just as powerful!

4 - Journaling

I journal because I’m a writer and that feels good for me. Although there is a great deal of research that supports journaling as a form of self-reflection, meditation, and personal growth. If I am struggling with a problem or feeling challenged by a situation, I will wake up early and journal for 20 minutes around it for several days in a row. That always helps me to find the perspective I need to move forward — the stuff I can’t always access consciously, but I know is in there, if I just dig around for it. Journaling allows me to get the low-hanging fruit of the day out of my mind, so I can get deeper into my subconscious and mine it for insights.

5 - Let Go

I have learned over the years, especially since I started giving talks and writing books on the subject, that holding on to that which no longer serves is not an act of Big Wild Love. Whenever I find myself grappling with a situation I don’t want to be in, I remember to let go. I immediately put myself into my own six-step process, which I outline in my book. It works every single time.

For example, last year I let go of my full-time corporate job after being there for 10 years because I simply couldn’t keep up with it and a growing side hustle to help people to let go. I had also outgrown the job, so I knew it was time for me to move on and pursue my purpose, which is devoting more time to writing, speaking, and teaching people how to let go for what they want most.