How Lack of Self-Love Holds You Back

If you’re struggling with anything in life, the answer might be that you simply don’t love yourself enough. If we don’t love ourselves, i.e., self-love, then we will also make choices based on that lack of self-love. 

If we don’t feel worthy of love, then we’ll never find love. It’s that simple. Then we end up settling, but this all goes back to loving ourselves first and foremost. And yet, it’s not quite that simple. 

Take a bit of time to watch the video below to learn more, or if you’d prefer to read about it, scroll down below the video. 

We seek out partners that confirm for us what we believe to be true about ourselves: that we aren’t worthy of a healthy, happy, loving relationship.

Many of us believe we’re giving love to ourselves — we exercise, eat right, praise our accomplishments and strivings. But these things are self care, and that’s very different from self-love. These, however, are superficial layers of self-care. 

Self-love reflects a deeper appreciation for our own self worth and virtue. This also includes a feeling of deserving what we receive in life; that these things are actually possible for us. 

Going back to a relationship, for instance, it’s important to keep in mind that in the short term, letting go is challenging. But we have to remember that we deserve better that whatever it is that we’re releasing. 

To actually believe that we deserve better, we have to create an understanding of the deeper understanding of love for ourselves. Then we’ll be able to make choices that are in our best interest. 

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